Friday, July 18, 2008

What now

Recent developments in the sids (?) death of the baby leave me somewhat speechless. Yes, I expected the investigation into the lives of the parents. No, I absolutely do not believe that the mother had/has any issues what-so-ever with abuse or neglect or anything of the sort. The father however, leaves all of us wondering, all of us - except, of course Tiffany, the mom. I am certain she believes in him and his innocence. Which leaves me wondering...and I would have to say that I can understand all sides here, and have no good opinion or advice.

The department of human services came in yesterday and took the remaining two babies out of the home and placed them in temporary foster care. That was of course the day following the hours of relentless questioning of the father, by the local keystone cops, the local police force. Let it be known here that I despise that whole outfit...they are what I hope is an atypical small town unit of big boy wanna' be's. Once they hate you, you are so very screwed. And due to his OWN actions, this is where the father stands with each and every one of them. And, there is a dead baby here...about as bad-heinous-as it can get, assuming the worst...assuming there was some sort of foul play involved. However, if there was not, then what is happening now is unforgivable. I certainly agree that the truth needs to be discovered. I certainly agree that if the other two children are in any sort of danger, they should first be taken care of, ask questions later. However, the "boys" are quite capable of skewing the truth. Quite capable of not telling all they know. At this time, the parents have no idea what the results of the autopsy showed, other than there was no obvious signs of foul play. No signs of mis-treatment. No signs of anything...so while I agree that an investigation is in order...if they have no clues or signs of anything wrong, then take it easy, err on the side of caution. Legally, they cannot get away without telling those closest to that child the official autopsy results. But they are. A good lawyer is needed, of course, but good lawyers---the ones outside of the "good old boy network" cost money, and that's the thing they don't have. Now, a trial of sorts--a hearing-- will be held on Tuesday, at which time I hope that Tiff can get her babies back. If she has to have them but not the father, so be it...I know that she certainly would choose the babies over the man. The whole thing breaks my heart and leaves me feeling uneasy. None of it is my problem, my business or my affair. But it certainly is the problem and business of Stephanie, and when her heart breaks, mine hurts for her.

Later. :(

9 comments:

Cheryl said...

I can't believe this turn in events. The other kids taken? Just too heartbreaking for words.

ac said...

I'm shocked and so so sorry at the turn this has taken. I'll be keeping good thoughts and prayers for you and your girl Stephenie and her family. xo ac

Mary said...

Oh, my God, please comfort these parents and keep the children safe. My heart breaks for everyone involved.

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Brad said...

typing thru tears - tragic - just awful. And I agree with Mary. All you can do is be there for them all. Take care Sis.

Portia said...

Unreal. I have a hard time believing that this is all really necessary too. I hope this nightmare ends very soon.

Kelly Jene said...

What a nightmare! To deal with this on top of the tragedy is just unthinkable. Praying for true justice...

Maria said...

I am just flabbergasted that they removed the other children from the home with no just cause. I am sure that this cannot be legal. If they have some evidence that there is foul play, yes...they have to act. But with no evidence, I don't believe that they can legally do this. I worked on and off with child services for many, many years and it was very hard to remove children from their home even with evidence of mistreatment.

This is baffling.

Raine said...

What a nightmare. I dont know what to say, except that I will keep them all in my prayers

Summer said...

This is totally insane.