tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post6945053773848958804..comments2024-02-15T04:21:30.013-06:00Comments on Everyone thinks I can fix it: It is what it is.Jamiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18085622205448586156noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-68019691029842931532008-02-12T14:34:00.000-06:002008-02-12T14:34:00.000-06:00Jamie, I am glad you let this all out. It is just ...Jamie, I am glad you let this all out. It is just too huge to carry inside by yourself.<BR/><BR/>RE: Janelle, I will only offer that she might be undergoing hormonal readjustment right now that exacerbates everything to the point of madness. Maybe once the hormones balance back out, and the grief abates just a bit, it will get a little easier. She'll second guess herself for a long time regardless. Maybe it would have helped to have had someone examine the fetus for proof positive? Who knows. Maybe she can speak with the person who did it, and know more positively. Maybe that is all she needs is irrefutable proof positive that this was as bad as purported.<BR/><BR/>I am glad your son is getting the help he needs, too. Exercise can ward off a LOT. I know when I can't get mine, i get damned cranky, and I'm not fighting anxiety (other than that which all wives and mothers experience on a daily).<BR/><BR/>Please don't worry that you'll run folks off. If they run let 'em. The rest of us will be around. You are not the least bit self pitying or whiny. Live can deal a rough hand. You're playing it. It would suck to fold now!<BR/><BR/>r.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08854080140004540619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-88628621103270846992008-02-12T12:06:00.000-06:002008-02-12T12:06:00.000-06:00Of course I wish that you wouldn't have to go thro...Of course I wish that you wouldn't have to go through all of this, but reading about it does not drive me away. Frankly, I'm glad you're open about things here. <BR/><BR/>I understand Janelle. While I wasn't a pragmatic person at first I became this way after motherhood, so I can see both sides of the matter. Things will look a lot more different in a few years but patience right now is probably the best...<BR/><BR/>Have had some success with the mind over matter for panic attacks, but this is not possible for everyone. May your son can find whatever solution best for him.<BR/><BR/>((((((((Jamie))))))))))<BR/><BR/>I hope and pray this setback is nothing lasting.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03293649194823360181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-26177239738909180802008-02-12T00:37:00.000-06:002008-02-12T00:37:00.000-06:00I think the best thing is to keep getting it out. ...I think the best thing is to keep getting it out. I know I don't know you well, but from all that I've read, you need to keep having an outlet. This is your blog, it's not here to please anyone but you. In truth, WE are blessed to be made a part of your life.<BR/><BR/>For your daughter, all I know is the hurting doesn't seem to stop at first. There will be tears days, there will be numb days, there will be angry days.<BR/><BR/>I had to make a decision too about my baby and before God took care of it Himself, I wondered if it was the right thing to do, was I doing something wrong. It's all natural. All I can say is keep trying to be there as much as you can.<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry your neck is hurting as bad as before. When I realized my back was at it again just months after my surgery in 2001, it was with much dread. You are in my prayers. Really. I never just say that.<BR/><BR/>Keep getting it out, keep purging. Otherwise emotions back up like a stinky toilet. ;)Moohaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12783775723399171570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-15975247606326259822008-02-11T19:39:00.000-06:002008-02-11T19:39:00.000-06:00Jamie, all of the others have said everything I al...Jamie, all of the others have said everything I also feel and want to say. Soul, especially. Janelle is in hormone hell right now and her moods reflect that. Stand by and be there for her, but like the others have said, this is something she has to deal with in her own time and her own way. She WILL be fine, even though she doesn't think so right now.<BR/>Jamie, if you ever want to write me personally you know I welcome it. You have my email address. Sometimes when I'm upset I just write in a journal that goes nowhere. It helps. <BR/>None of us would ever leave you!!! Don't even go there! It just would not happen. We all love you and feel your hurt. <BR/>I'm praying that the dr. will have good news but if he doesn't...you will deal with it and we will be here for you...always. Don't forget that. So write to your heart's content......we will embrace your words and we will comfort one another and by doing that we will all heal. Yes we will. Big hugs to you...can you FEEL the love? We sure are sending it your way. I wish you peace and God's blessings, dear friend.Golden To Silver Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04585559845728927540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-34738379969760907042008-02-11T17:19:00.000-06:002008-02-11T17:19:00.000-06:00I ditto what all your other readers say..I am here...I ditto what all your other readers say..I am here because I want to..whether you post fluff or real stuff, sad stuff, rants, whatever...am awaiting the dr's report. As for Janelle, I understand your frustration...and I guess it is an understatement to say that these things take time..just keep walking with her..in time... wounds will heal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-60188293985905588952008-02-11T14:58:00.000-06:002008-02-11T14:58:00.000-06:00Just a heads up, I reported on my blog that spellc...Just a heads up, I reported on my blog that spellcheck isn't working,..if you click on the HELP button up near the DASHBOARD (I think) and then click on report updates, it will list the items that have had people in blogging land climbing walls, the first one was SPELL Check. NExt to it is a blue box that says REPORT IT. <BR/><BR/>Hope it's up and running, but I for one don't pay attention to spelling errors.<BR/><BR/>Hope today went well for you!<BR/>Always,<BR/>E~CRUSTY MOM-Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16147045282174189951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-77638347558907055882008-02-11T11:21:00.000-06:002008-02-11T11:21:00.000-06:00As you know I've not been reading here for very lo...As you know I've not been reading here for very long, and I'm just getting to know you. I wonder if you make anytime just for your self ? I hope you can find an hour or two or five to do something just for yourself. Writing is always a good way to get stuff off your chest but time alone or with a friend doing something just for me always helps me re-charge. Peace to you Sister.Bradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08680462833188999331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-53285000395632170142008-02-11T11:02:00.000-06:002008-02-11T11:02:00.000-06:00Some things I understand and some I don't, but you...Some things I understand and some I don't, but you will never lose me because the truth is too painful. I pray that Janelle and OS find the peace and healing that they each need, and that there IS relief and healing for your pain. Your writing and ability to express yourself are beautiful. Your honesty and the reality of life does not make it any less so.Portiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15267963630814453792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-28874438866710726742008-02-11T09:02:00.000-06:002008-02-11T09:02:00.000-06:00Jamie, I wish I could say or do something to take ...Jamie, I wish I could say or do something to take the worry and hurt away. You certainly have support and love here in blogland. <BR/><BR/>Yes, Janelle is going through a horrible time. It will take time but it's something she has to do for herself. You are her support - as you should be - but she has to face and make her life what she wants it to be. It's still early in her healing process. She will heal in time. <BR/><BR/>Your son sounds like a wonderful young man. He's wise to look for help in the right way. With meds and a little time, he'll be back on even keel soon. Hugs from Mom are always part of any fix for our sons.<BR/><BR/>Like Soul, I'm waiting to hear what the doctor has to say. Stress is probably a good part of the problem and we all know you've had way too much of that ever since your surgery.<BR/><BR/>I'm sending prayer and love to you. Let the collective love and support from your blog friends help you through this. We all care and we'll be here to listen and support you in this most difficult time.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10888354907204896695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-26248322032957620562008-02-11T08:26:00.000-06:002008-02-11T08:26:00.000-06:00In these situations I have a bad habit of saying t...In these situations I have a bad habit of saying the wrong thing so all I will say is this; You would be doing yourself and us a disservice is you were less than honest about what is really going on inside you. If it helps to write it out then you absolutely should. The last thing you need to worry about is losing any of the people who visit you here. Speaking for myself I visit here because I want to know how you're going and I will continue to do that for as long as you allow me to.<BR/><BR/>We are your friends Jamie and we care about you and love you with all our hearts. If you believe nothing else, then believe that. Gee for someone who wasn't going to say much I certainly managed to say a lot. Friends are there for the good times and the bad. I see the same faces here every day Jamie, trust that they will always be here.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339140046788925506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-48594503245347797642008-02-11T07:52:00.000-06:002008-02-11T07:52:00.000-06:00I'm with you too and not going away. You can't mak...I'm with you too and not going away. You can't make me. I'm glad you wrote it all down. I'm glad that your family will see. So much of our lives as mothers is about taking care of our kids. You're letting your kids know that it's not all about them, no matter that you love them with all your heart. Janelle will get counseling and hopefully tools to help her live with what happened. Your son will improve. You must be so proud that he went for the help he knew he needed. And you? Write all you want and can. You have friends here. Is there something that could help with the depression that must come from the many things, especially the pain, that you're dealing with?<BR/><BR/>I hope the news from the doctor is better than you expect. It will be good to know, one way or another, so you can deal with it instead of living in fear of what it could be.<BR/><BR/>Have I overstepped my bounds? I hope not! I just care about you.Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09605292489556502765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-35488034628883207922008-02-11T06:54:00.000-06:002008-02-11T06:54:00.000-06:00I wish the pain could be eased in your life, and t...I wish the pain could be eased in your life, and there aren't enough words in a book to say how I hope for better things for you!!<BR/><BR/>Soul is right, everyone here loves you, and won't leave you because of the troubles in your family...that would be WRong! and not real!<BR/><BR/>Godspeed today, Jaime!<BR/><BR/>Truly,<BR/>ElizabethCRUSTY MOM-Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16147045282174189951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-89672895955324285132008-02-11T06:24:00.000-06:002008-02-11T06:24:00.000-06:00most of what i could or would say-- i have already...most of what i could or would say-- i have already said one on one with you-- which is probably best---<BR/><BR/>what i will say here-- is i know for a fact that everyone here loves you-- no one will leave you because you are having trouble in your life. as you have surely noticed-- these are the times that you realize just how many true friends you have out here. <BR/><BR/>it's good to write about these things-- really. you can't hold this in forever-- and we will always be here to listen. <BR/><BR/><BR/>i'm waiting for the dr. report ok"? <BR/>you need to stop carrying the world on your back... it's not yours to carry. <BR/>take care of YOU first-- you know what happens when you don't.<BR/><BR/>as for janelle-- you can't carry her either-- you can walk together-- but you can't carry her through this. this is something that she needs to deal with her way-- or not at all-- and you have seen the result of that-- firsthand. and it is not good. <BR/><BR/>i need to really shut up now.<BR/><BR/>we love you-- and your family-- our prayers are with you all--<BR/><BR/>i hope your day-- and your dr.. give you peace today--<BR/><BR/>oxoxSOULhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14096155256030485739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34674870.post-60647902424635030802008-02-11T05:47:00.000-06:002008-02-11T05:47:00.000-06:00I'm not sure what I want to say and I'm afraid if ...I'm not sure what I want to say and I'm afraid if I say something it will sound trite. I am glad that you let this all out.Summerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09682011207382581532noreply@blogger.com